Obvious Goodness?

Did you ever hear living the life without friend is kind of boring? I am pretty sure every human being who lives in this beautiful world at least has one friend to spend time with. We can’t deny some people tend to enjoy being alone but actually they still need at least somebody to be with; to share stories, foods, excitements or burdens. Sharing things is one of the most precious thing that we could do to feel a meaningful life. I feel it too with two of my friends, Helmi and Ucok. They are my best friends that I could share everything with nothing to hide. Since we get along for quite long, all I know about them is just the same, they are my close friens. Yet I barely notice there are several obvious differences between these my two close friends.

First, the way they stare at someone, especially girls. I can say Helmi has a wilder eyes than Ucok. I feel like Helmi easily detect every beautiful girl that passes him. Not only detect but also the way he stares is like observing. Sometimes I think it’s a bit rude to stare at girls like that but he does it anyway.  Not like Helmi, Ucok always try to lower his gaze everytime he sees a girl passes through. Sometimes he looks at girl a litle while but I surely know he always tries to look down in order to give respect to a girl.

Second, their interests are really contradictory. Again it’s about girls. Ucok is more attracted with a girl covered by Hijab. Conversely, the sexier a girl, the more atrracted Helmi will be. I ever heard what Ucok said, he doesn’t like to see a girl with no cover on the head. I also find they are different at their favorite food. Helmi is a spicy lover while Ucok tend to eat sour food. I’ve ever had dinner with Helmi, he ate “ayam geprek” with ten chilies. Even for me two chilies is enough to burn my mouth because it’s too spicy.

Third, the way they dress up is completely different. Helmi is a big guy but he likes to wear short pants and long sleeve, in contrast Ucok has much smaller body than Helmi but he always feel uncomfortable to wear any pants above the knee and he likes to wear t-shirt. Ucok told me he feels odd every time he wears pants shorter than the knee. He doesn’t want a girl to see his thigh that way. The one likes short pants with long sleeve, the other one likes to wear long pants with t-shirt.

Based on what I knew, Helmi and Ucok are just the same, they are my close friend. In fact, there are some obvious things that I didn’t notice about them. They are different in many ways. However, differences can’t be a reason for me to stop being friend. Even these differences could be colouring our friendship. One more thing that makes me realize, they don’t have to be the same just to become my friend. Differences are okay and it’s good.